Bonjour!
Clearly it's after 6p so it should be Bonsoir!
I've always heard that nobody will treat your stuff with the same respect as you would and trust me I learned that tonight. Which made me start wondering why is that? I mean if I had something in my possession that didn't belong to me wouldn't I treat it with more care to make sure I returned it in the same condition it was given to me.... right? I mean especially in the idea that I wouldn't want to ruin a friendship, relationship or even lose someone's respect.... which in turn made me think about how we value feelings and dreams on a regular basis. People share emotions, thoughts and dreams with random people all the time but sometime I don't think we value what we hear or how they truly feel before we respond or act. We should stop and process whether the advice or reaction we give off when listening to a friend or family member is of true value, and i mean true value to them asking ourselves is the advice we're giving honest? Is it encouraging? Motivating? Have you taken great care of the information by thinking of ways you can help? Some times I think we get sooo wrapped up in ourselves that we lose the idea of sharing positive energy and creating value within our relationships and friendships, every now and then a lil push behind somebody else's dream could be a step in the right direction and even moreso it could truly make you feel good. Just because it's not your dream doesn't make it a subpar dream it just means you know great people! So the next time someone comes to you to share their possession/dream stop and think about how much care you will give them because believe it or not how you return your thoughts definitely matters!
Good Night to all - sleep tight.
Ciao!
O yea guess what- I did this entire post on the iPad........
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Gridlock'd
Bonjour!
Soooo I was on my way in to work the other day and as someone who hates I mean hates traffic sooo much that whenever I make it to my God given destiny I'm definitely getting a driver but back to the story- I'm on my way in and traffic is backed up and moving sooooo slow and guess what? It had nothing to do with my side of the beltway it had everything to do with the other side- but people going South were being nosey and holding us up which made me realize people cause Gridlock and just like traffic in life we tend to let other irrelevant things or situations to take our attention, distracting us and we allow it to slow us down from getting to where were suppose to be or want to be.... Ok ready?! I can't do this post on the iPad my wrist is killing me .....to be continued
Ciao!
Soooo I was on my way in to work the other day and as someone who hates I mean hates traffic sooo much that whenever I make it to my God given destiny I'm definitely getting a driver but back to the story- I'm on my way in and traffic is backed up and moving sooooo slow and guess what? It had nothing to do with my side of the beltway it had everything to do with the other side- but people going South were being nosey and holding us up which made me realize people cause Gridlock and just like traffic in life we tend to let other irrelevant things or situations to take our attention, distracting us and we allow it to slow us down from getting to where were suppose to be or want to be.... Ok ready?! I can't do this post on the iPad my wrist is killing me .....to be continued
Ciao!
Monday, September 12, 2011
You Can Do It...(Arnold Schwarzenegger Voice)
Bonjour!
Happy Monday to All! Sooo I have great news...Guess who woke up at 6am this morning to get in a brisk walk, breakfast and semi-made it to work on time?! ME ME ME - O yea O yea. This is the start to something great. I woke up with a different attitude and it worked!! Adjustment to my attitude also helped me realize during my walk that sometimes there are just things you must let go. On Friday I found myself giving some advice that I should actually use myself instead of ignoring which is"stop trying to make things fit into your life"; It's like trying to put a size 9 foot into a size 7 shoe. Life should be as my favorite co-worker says all the time "organic". When things fit and are right you know it because it feels right. So today I'm going to let go of something that I'm pretty sure I've been trying to make "fit"- I'll let you know how it goes, lol...... In the mean and between time ask yourself are you wearing the right size shoe?
O yea NEW PRODUCT ALERT: So I've been trying the Body Shop Vitamin C facial cleanser, moisturizer and skin booster and I absolutely LOVE it- My skin seems to have this natural glow to it in the mornings and my dark spots are actually starting to fade....Check it out!!
Ciao!
Happy Monday to All! Sooo I have great news...Guess who woke up at 6am this morning to get in a brisk walk, breakfast and semi-made it to work on time?! ME ME ME - O yea O yea. This is the start to something great. I woke up with a different attitude and it worked!! Adjustment to my attitude also helped me realize during my walk that sometimes there are just things you must let go. On Friday I found myself giving some advice that I should actually use myself instead of ignoring which is"stop trying to make things fit into your life"; It's like trying to put a size 9 foot into a size 7 shoe. Life should be as my favorite co-worker says all the time "organic". When things fit and are right you know it because it feels right. So today I'm going to let go of something that I'm pretty sure I've been trying to make "fit"- I'll let you know how it goes, lol...... In the mean and between time ask yourself are you wearing the right size shoe?
O yea NEW PRODUCT ALERT: So I've been trying the Body Shop Vitamin C facial cleanser, moisturizer and skin booster and I absolutely LOVE it- My skin seems to have this natural glow to it in the mornings and my dark spots are actually starting to fade....Check it out!!
Ciao!
Friday, September 9, 2011
Up for Grabs!
Bonjour!!
I know I know it's been a minute since you've heard from the kid...quite a bit has happened especially emotionally but all is well or at least I will make it that way!
The last 2-3 weeks have been pretty eye-opening and ironically motivating to me while dealing with family issues, death, financial woes, being called lazy lol, etc but I was watching a movie the other day and in a very gayish girly way I wrote down the quote the actress used " We are one small adjustment from making our lives work" and the crazy thing is: THIS IS SOOO TRUE! Think about it if you could adjust one small thing in your life everything has the potential to fall right in place. For me it's my attitude if I could just adjust my attitude and how I let people and things affect me I could be on the path to greatness. I started this morning by telling myself: "The world is up for grabs, and I just have to take it". So that's the attitude I plan on having in hopes that this is my adjustment and great things happen.
Someone was brutally honest with me last week and called me lazy and although I may have seemed cool when it was said it PISSED me off because at no point would I ever call my self lazy I bust ass everyday! It bothered me for a couple of days and then I realized it -I am lazy not lazy in my actions but lazy in my thoughts and processes. I bust ass for everybody else but not for myself so another adjustment with my attitude is the thought process of busting ass for me just as I do for everybody else and let's see what happens, see it's all about the attitude (which we know I have-lol).
To start this new adjustment to my life I made Goal Sheets last night- each individual sheet states a goal at the top and then tasks that will need to be completed over time to get to the final goal - kinda like a road map. This way I hold myself accountable for what needs to be done and I can see where I fell off and what I can do better- HA now call that Lazy lol---- It's amazing how much motivation one can have when they want to prove someone wrong but I guess at the end of the day if their goal is to light a fire under you because they care and want to see you succeed then keep them coming; I'll be lazy all day lol.
So my QuarterLife Phenoms is there an adjustment you can make? and how will you kick your "lazy" in the ass?!
Ciao!!
I know I know it's been a minute since you've heard from the kid...quite a bit has happened especially emotionally but all is well or at least I will make it that way!
The last 2-3 weeks have been pretty eye-opening and ironically motivating to me while dealing with family issues, death, financial woes, being called lazy lol, etc but I was watching a movie the other day and in a very gayish girly way I wrote down the quote the actress used " We are one small adjustment from making our lives work" and the crazy thing is: THIS IS SOOO TRUE! Think about it if you could adjust one small thing in your life everything has the potential to fall right in place. For me it's my attitude if I could just adjust my attitude and how I let people and things affect me I could be on the path to greatness. I started this morning by telling myself: "The world is up for grabs, and I just have to take it". So that's the attitude I plan on having in hopes that this is my adjustment and great things happen.
Someone was brutally honest with me last week and called me lazy and although I may have seemed cool when it was said it PISSED me off because at no point would I ever call my self lazy I bust ass everyday! It bothered me for a couple of days and then I realized it -I am lazy not lazy in my actions but lazy in my thoughts and processes. I bust ass for everybody else but not for myself so another adjustment with my attitude is the thought process of busting ass for me just as I do for everybody else and let's see what happens, see it's all about the attitude (which we know I have-lol).
To start this new adjustment to my life I made Goal Sheets last night- each individual sheet states a goal at the top and then tasks that will need to be completed over time to get to the final goal - kinda like a road map. This way I hold myself accountable for what needs to be done and I can see where I fell off and what I can do better- HA now call that Lazy lol---- It's amazing how much motivation one can have when they want to prove someone wrong but I guess at the end of the day if their goal is to light a fire under you because they care and want to see you succeed then keep them coming; I'll be lazy all day lol.
So my QuarterLife Phenoms is there an adjustment you can make? and how will you kick your "lazy" in the ass?!
Ciao!!
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Word of the Day: Discipline
Bonjour,
It's like everywhere I turn today I keep running into the word or idea of "discipline". Reading a book for the next year called "One Year to An Organized Life" yup you heard it 1 Year lol. For Week 2 it asks you to write a schedule, create a routine- so I did it and I must say it was pretty cool: wake up early work-out, eat breakfast, get dress, work work work work, come home, cook dinner, eat, read, and prepare for the next day---Yup I said it prepare for the next day, outfit and all; I must say it was an awesome schedule. The problem was not my ability to make the schedule the problem is my execution of the schedule lol which made me realize the lack of discipline I have and it's across the board including the excel spreadsheet that stalks me each pay period (my budget, #deepsigh). So my question is how is it I can be disciplined enough to work my tail off at work to get things done for other people but lack it for my self, and honestly my financial future? Which brings me to my next occurrence with discipline-------
I read an article in Wash Biz Journal that says: saving $100 per month at 25 you can accumulate $351,00 by the time you're 65. It went on to say to be able to do this you have to have ????? you guessed it DISCIPLINE- "Discipline means you are capable of making the sacrifice" " you must be committed to making small incremental behavioral changes". So does the lack of discipline mean I'm not committed? Because each time I decide I'm going to do this I feel committed but obviously I'm not so is it laziness? lack of motivation?
It just seems crazy that I can't get on the ball - soooo I am putting myself to the challenge, research shows that to make something a habit you must do it for 21 days or more, so today I pledge that for the next 21days I will submit , yes I said submit to the idea of abiding by my schedule.
Make a schedule and try it! Trust me it's easier than it sounds - let me know how it works out!!
Ciao!
It's like everywhere I turn today I keep running into the word or idea of "discipline". Reading a book for the next year called "One Year to An Organized Life" yup you heard it 1 Year lol. For Week 2 it asks you to write a schedule, create a routine- so I did it and I must say it was pretty cool: wake up early work-out, eat breakfast, get dress, work work work work, come home, cook dinner, eat, read, and prepare for the next day---Yup I said it prepare for the next day, outfit and all; I must say it was an awesome schedule. The problem was not my ability to make the schedule the problem is my execution of the schedule lol which made me realize the lack of discipline I have and it's across the board including the excel spreadsheet that stalks me each pay period (my budget, #deepsigh). So my question is how is it I can be disciplined enough to work my tail off at work to get things done for other people but lack it for my self, and honestly my financial future? Which brings me to my next occurrence with discipline-------
I read an article in Wash Biz Journal that says: saving $100 per month at 25 you can accumulate $351,00 by the time you're 65. It went on to say to be able to do this you have to have ????? you guessed it DISCIPLINE- "Discipline means you are capable of making the sacrifice" " you must be committed to making small incremental behavioral changes". So does the lack of discipline mean I'm not committed? Because each time I decide I'm going to do this I feel committed but obviously I'm not so is it laziness? lack of motivation?
It just seems crazy that I can't get on the ball - soooo I am putting myself to the challenge, research shows that to make something a habit you must do it for 21 days or more, so today I pledge that for the next 21days I will submit , yes I said submit to the idea of abiding by my schedule.
Make a schedule and try it! Trust me it's easier than it sounds - let me know how it works out!!
Ciao!
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Thought of the DAY!
Bonjour!!
Sooo I have learned that you learn something new everyday lol (pretty funny right?) Whether it's professionally, academically or personally something new enters our brain each day. To be exact the average human has approximately 55-60k thoughts a day, so something new and or investigative has to come out of that..... For instance a few weeks back a client told me : "It's amazing that lightning bugs light up to signal other lightning bugs that they would like to mate" Who would've thunk it? And you can say I'm slow but I had NO idea...which made me think what if people lit up or had some type of signal that tells the world "come on and screw me" LOL...But I guess we do and it's called Patron and or Vodka lol....
Moving on....The interesting thing is although this was said to me weeks ago it came back to me today as I realized although we don't have some green lantern light effect that signifies to the world what we want, we do carry an individual light that shows how we're feeling -- called our body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. It made me start realizing how I carry a light with me each day that shows how I'm feeling for the entire world to see, which then made me ask WHY? I mean if all 307 Million people in the US can see how I'm feeling and know what's actually bothering me will they care? Probably not, lol...Even more so why should they? in addition to just because I feel a certain way doesn't make it right for me to make others feel that same way and or turn them off from me completely.
Sometimes I think we let people and things dictate us, control who are whether it's for a moment, an hour, a day, a week, even worse a lifetime. Am I saying you can't be pissed off or shouldn't? No not at all but what I am saying is life is to short and whatever is bothering you scream about it, pray about it, laugh about it, do what ever you have to do but don't let it become you because then you lose you and possibly those around you. And yes I know it's easier said than done and this may be the advice I give and don't take but the thing is if you don't control you and your life why should anyone else deserve to?
Soooo today I pledge that even when things aren't going my way and want to be pissy and or pissed off..I'll scream KICK ROCKS!! and then I'll build a bridge and get the HELL over it because If I give them that much power or control then I'm the damn fool lol
Smile.....This to shall pass :-)
Cioa!
Sooo I have learned that you learn something new everyday lol (pretty funny right?) Whether it's professionally, academically or personally something new enters our brain each day. To be exact the average human has approximately 55-60k thoughts a day, so something new and or investigative has to come out of that..... For instance a few weeks back a client told me : "It's amazing that lightning bugs light up to signal other lightning bugs that they would like to mate" Who would've thunk it? And you can say I'm slow but I had NO idea...which made me think what if people lit up or had some type of signal that tells the world "come on and screw me" LOL...But I guess we do and it's called Patron and or Vodka lol....
Moving on....The interesting thing is although this was said to me weeks ago it came back to me today as I realized although we don't have some green lantern light effect that signifies to the world what we want, we do carry an individual light that shows how we're feeling -- called our body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. It made me start realizing how I carry a light with me each day that shows how I'm feeling for the entire world to see, which then made me ask WHY? I mean if all 307 Million people in the US can see how I'm feeling and know what's actually bothering me will they care? Probably not, lol...Even more so why should they? in addition to just because I feel a certain way doesn't make it right for me to make others feel that same way and or turn them off from me completely.
Sometimes I think we let people and things dictate us, control who are whether it's for a moment, an hour, a day, a week, even worse a lifetime. Am I saying you can't be pissed off or shouldn't? No not at all but what I am saying is life is to short and whatever is bothering you scream about it, pray about it, laugh about it, do what ever you have to do but don't let it become you because then you lose you and possibly those around you. And yes I know it's easier said than done and this may be the advice I give and don't take but the thing is if you don't control you and your life why should anyone else deserve to?
Soooo today I pledge that even when things aren't going my way and want to be pissy and or pissed off..I'll scream KICK ROCKS!! and then I'll build a bridge and get the HELL over it because If I give them that much power or control then I'm the damn fool lol
Smile.....This to shall pass :-)
Cioa!
Friday, July 29, 2011
3 WISH Genie.....
I know I know....it's been a while- My dearest apologies, I promise to get my game back up......
So today I woke up and realized I wish I had a personal genie, how great would it be if like the Lil blue man from Aladdin just popped up while I was washing my face this morning? What would be my 3 wishes...at first I thought of selfish things like a house with no mortgage, a good paying job, you know all the things us twenty-something would just jump up and down about as status qualifiers. THEN!!! I started thinking how great it would be if my 3 wishes benefited all my Qtr life phenoms.
I WISH:
There was a career/job matchmaker like Patty on "Millionaire Matchmaker" how great would that be?! Like I have no problem finding a good guy to date, luckily I've been blessed in that area for the last few years but I have just struck out on the jobs/career moves I've mad- O how great it would be to have a Patty in the career world don;t you agree? lol AND even better I would share her with all of you- I know it's only like 6 people but who cares, lol ....
I WISH:
That the people who talked a good game played a good game...You know the people who talk their way through life instead of doing the work or being held accountable? This goes for professionally and personally...the family members who are only family part of the time but want to tell you what to do or what you should do and haven't been around or contributed in years....you know who they are.....OR the people at work who wants to be in charge and receive all the glory but haven't done a DAMN thing lol---yea those jokers--- I don;t want them to disappear I just want them to show up and actually play instead of trying to manage the game, the sidelines, and everything else.
I WISH:
HMMMM....Not sure, but I won't be selfish- Qtr Life Phenoms--what do you wish for our generation? I mean I shared my wishes with you and even kept you in mind while thinking about them, sure enough you can do the same.....
Until next time...........
Ciao!!!
So today I woke up and realized I wish I had a personal genie, how great would it be if like the Lil blue man from Aladdin just popped up while I was washing my face this morning? What would be my 3 wishes...at first I thought of selfish things like a house with no mortgage, a good paying job, you know all the things us twenty-something would just jump up and down about as status qualifiers. THEN!!! I started thinking how great it would be if my 3 wishes benefited all my Qtr life phenoms.
I WISH:
There was a career/job matchmaker like Patty on "Millionaire Matchmaker" how great would that be?! Like I have no problem finding a good guy to date, luckily I've been blessed in that area for the last few years but I have just struck out on the jobs/career moves I've mad- O how great it would be to have a Patty in the career world don;t you agree? lol AND even better I would share her with all of you- I know it's only like 6 people but who cares, lol ....
I WISH:
That the people who talked a good game played a good game...You know the people who talk their way through life instead of doing the work or being held accountable? This goes for professionally and personally...the family members who are only family part of the time but want to tell you what to do or what you should do and haven't been around or contributed in years....you know who they are.....OR the people at work who wants to be in charge and receive all the glory but haven't done a DAMN thing lol---yea those jokers--- I don;t want them to disappear I just want them to show up and actually play instead of trying to manage the game, the sidelines, and everything else.
I WISH:
HMMMM....Not sure, but I won't be selfish- Qtr Life Phenoms--what do you wish for our generation? I mean I shared my wishes with you and even kept you in mind while thinking about them, sure enough you can do the same.....
Until next time...........
Ciao!!!
Friday, June 24, 2011
Work Hard...... Play Harder
Bonjour!
This has been a rough week- VERY VERY Tiring so I say to you my QtrLife Phenoms if you worked your a** off this week and you wanted to tell people to "kick rocks!" Then play hard this weekend because I plan to paly as hard as I can while in Miami!! Use the weekend to shake it off and re-energize yourself to kill the game next week. It'll strengthen you to make it through.
Tell someone you love them this weekend, it'll make you feel good and it'll make them smile!
Ciao!
This has been a rough week- VERY VERY Tiring so I say to you my QtrLife Phenoms if you worked your a** off this week and you wanted to tell people to "kick rocks!" Then play hard this weekend because I plan to paly as hard as I can while in Miami!! Use the weekend to shake it off and re-energize yourself to kill the game next week. It'll strengthen you to make it through.
Tell someone you love them this weekend, it'll make you feel good and it'll make them smile!
Ciao!
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Uphill Journey....Or like Ice Cube Today is a Good Day lol
Bonjour!!
Yes I meant to give you two exclamation points, If you can't tell today is a good day... I am back in control of my QuarterLife Crisis that was happening Sunday...o yea get that sh*t lol....Anywho...today I have decided to dedicate this post to my QuaterLife Circle.....See here's the thing I have been blessed to be surrounded by some of the most motivating individuals ever ! who at times go through their own QL Crisis but I realize we all motivate each other and their accomplishments not only strengthen them it strengthens all of us and aids us as we push forward to greatness.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what's not right or not knowing that we lose all the things we've accomplished thus far and just how far we've come...SO!!!! Today I commend some pretty spectacular people to let them know how great they are and how they have motivated me continuously!! I got racks on racks and racks lol (sorry/complete sidebar lol)
To the one who when thinking about this yesterday brought tears to my eyes..her strength to handle pregnancy alone even the nights when her feet were swollen, you accomplished your dreams with purchasing your home, staying on track in your career (you are board certified boo o yea o yea) on your own and raising your child to be the best she can be while providing the top education and instruction possible to the children of the County. You continue to lend yourself to the children of our future with your non-profit (wink wink) and without a single doubt it will happen.The school system is lucky to have you, sunshine is blessed to have you and I am honored to call you my friend. You are WOMAN!
To the one who couldn't hang a picture in college and thought she needed a man to complete her fairy tale life. She has resurfaced from heart break and tragedy by fulfilling her ultimate career goal all while under 30, in a position that is usually filled by men in their 40's. You worked your ass off for the last 9 years I've known you and it paid off. Take your bow!
To the one who was told in HS that the college of their choice was out of reach, you proved that heffa wrong and now your Masters from one of the most prestigious schools in the DC area. You continue to follow your dreams while ensuring they are limitless, your beauty not only lies outside but your heart is golden and your mind is a BEAST lol! Ask for everything you want mama because it's coming!
To you, my main homeboy who as a black male from the inner city had everything against him, you defeated the odds by completing your Undergrad but shocked the world with your Masters. The love you have for your moms is impeccable and any chick would be crazy not to see the jewel in you (I know that may sound a lil gay ; but love ya) You have followed your dreams all the way to the West Coast and you refuse to turn back you have a pure heart and your drive is the eye of a Tiger. Get it done, the best is yet to come!
To the love of my life, you have broken all stereotypes and said F*ck you to the ideology of the world and YOU are taking it over. Your drive to continue to learn and be the best for everyone, be there for everyone not just as a provider but as a teacher, motivator and confidant has made you my Best Friend. You are a true example of what hard work and hustling is...you stuck with it and it's paying off. You are a STAR and VP will be soon to come!
Last but not least....to you my lifelong, my lifeline..you have accomplished soo much I don't know where to start. I've watched you love and love and love and love...putting others before yourself endlessly. You juggle mom, wife, caretaker, student, professional all in one day. You have to be proud of yourself I will not allow you not to be. Things will come in due time on the career side because the blessing you've been to the little one and your mom, your breakthrough is on the way. I commend you because it takes a special person a STRONG person to travel the roads you have and still come out looking towards the sun. FYI Babes you are the SUN and your rays are definitely ready to shine beyond measure.
I love you all and I thank you in advance for all your motivation as WE travel this uphill journey to Joy. And to those who are reading this I hope this allows you to reflect on your uphill journey and continue to "just keep swimming just keep swimming "(Finding Nemo, Dora voice lol) I told you today was a good day!!
I don't know what tomorrow will be, it could be another QLC day but I am definitely going to enjoy this feeling...wouldn't you?!! I proclaim today a GREAT day for all my QuarterLife Phenoms...even if there's only like 2 or 3 -whatever. Today is a good day!
Ciao!
Yes I meant to give you two exclamation points, If you can't tell today is a good day... I am back in control of my QuarterLife Crisis that was happening Sunday...o yea get that sh*t lol....Anywho...today I have decided to dedicate this post to my QuaterLife Circle.....See here's the thing I have been blessed to be surrounded by some of the most motivating individuals ever ! who at times go through their own QL Crisis but I realize we all motivate each other and their accomplishments not only strengthen them it strengthens all of us and aids us as we push forward to greatness.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what's not right or not knowing that we lose all the things we've accomplished thus far and just how far we've come...SO!!!! Today I commend some pretty spectacular people to let them know how great they are and how they have motivated me continuously!! I got racks on racks and racks lol (sorry/complete sidebar lol)
To the one who when thinking about this yesterday brought tears to my eyes..her strength to handle pregnancy alone even the nights when her feet were swollen, you accomplished your dreams with purchasing your home, staying on track in your career (you are board certified boo o yea o yea) on your own and raising your child to be the best she can be while providing the top education and instruction possible to the children of the County. You continue to lend yourself to the children of our future with your non-profit (wink wink) and without a single doubt it will happen.The school system is lucky to have you, sunshine is blessed to have you and I am honored to call you my friend. You are WOMAN!
To the one who couldn't hang a picture in college and thought she needed a man to complete her fairy tale life. She has resurfaced from heart break and tragedy by fulfilling her ultimate career goal all while under 30, in a position that is usually filled by men in their 40's. You worked your ass off for the last 9 years I've known you and it paid off. Take your bow!
To the one who was told in HS that the college of their choice was out of reach, you proved that heffa wrong and now your Masters from one of the most prestigious schools in the DC area. You continue to follow your dreams while ensuring they are limitless, your beauty not only lies outside but your heart is golden and your mind is a BEAST lol! Ask for everything you want mama because it's coming!
To you, my main homeboy who as a black male from the inner city had everything against him, you defeated the odds by completing your Undergrad but shocked the world with your Masters. The love you have for your moms is impeccable and any chick would be crazy not to see the jewel in you (I know that may sound a lil gay ; but love ya) You have followed your dreams all the way to the West Coast and you refuse to turn back you have a pure heart and your drive is the eye of a Tiger. Get it done, the best is yet to come!
To the love of my life, you have broken all stereotypes and said F*ck you to the ideology of the world and YOU are taking it over. Your drive to continue to learn and be the best for everyone, be there for everyone not just as a provider but as a teacher, motivator and confidant has made you my Best Friend. You are a true example of what hard work and hustling is...you stuck with it and it's paying off. You are a STAR and VP will be soon to come!
Last but not least....to you my lifelong, my lifeline..you have accomplished soo much I don't know where to start. I've watched you love and love and love and love...putting others before yourself endlessly. You juggle mom, wife, caretaker, student, professional all in one day. You have to be proud of yourself I will not allow you not to be. Things will come in due time on the career side because the blessing you've been to the little one and your mom, your breakthrough is on the way. I commend you because it takes a special person a STRONG person to travel the roads you have and still come out looking towards the sun. FYI Babes you are the SUN and your rays are definitely ready to shine beyond measure.
I love you all and I thank you in advance for all your motivation as WE travel this uphill journey to Joy. And to those who are reading this I hope this allows you to reflect on your uphill journey and continue to "just keep swimming just keep swimming "(Finding Nemo, Dora voice lol) I told you today was a good day!!
I don't know what tomorrow will be, it could be another QLC day but I am definitely going to enjoy this feeling...wouldn't you?!! I proclaim today a GREAT day for all my QuarterLife Phenoms...even if there's only like 2 or 3 -whatever. Today is a good day!
Ciao!
Sunday, June 19, 2011
I Just Wish......
Bonjour!
I didn't realize I had that look this morning but I guess I did... The "I just wish" look is the statement my BF says I use when I'm letting my mind consume me and he could tell it was happening today. Which sucks because I really was trying not to let it show and even though he gets how i feel and pushes and motivates me but he doesn't understand completely because his career is booming and trust me he works hard for it and completely desreves it but that's just it he knows what he want so he was able to go after it! The truth is I do wish ....I just wish I would know what to do in my career already?! Like it's not even wanting a new job because at the end of the day I've confused myself completely on what it is I even want to do or what I'm even good at! Today Joel Osten said something big is coming and not that I doubt him but I'm not even sure what my dreams are lol isn't tht crazy? I mean am I the only one who feels this way? At least if I had them I would have sufficient goals, benchmarks and things to look forward to- dont get me wrong I'm completely grateful to have a job making a decent living but going back to the post the other day is it the job that has me on the path to my real reality? I believe everything happens for a reason and I know one day I will understand this journey but right now I'm soooooo confused; so I guess this is when I must step out on faith and the rest will be history. Am I alone on the way I feel? Or am I the only one willing to admit it? I just needed to get this off my chest- tomorrow will be a better day I promise that to you and myself.
Ciao!
I didn't realize I had that look this morning but I guess I did... The "I just wish" look is the statement my BF says I use when I'm letting my mind consume me and he could tell it was happening today. Which sucks because I really was trying not to let it show and even though he gets how i feel and pushes and motivates me but he doesn't understand completely because his career is booming and trust me he works hard for it and completely desreves it but that's just it he knows what he want so he was able to go after it! The truth is I do wish ....I just wish I would know what to do in my career already?! Like it's not even wanting a new job because at the end of the day I've confused myself completely on what it is I even want to do or what I'm even good at! Today Joel Osten said something big is coming and not that I doubt him but I'm not even sure what my dreams are lol isn't tht crazy? I mean am I the only one who feels this way? At least if I had them I would have sufficient goals, benchmarks and things to look forward to- dont get me wrong I'm completely grateful to have a job making a decent living but going back to the post the other day is it the job that has me on the path to my real reality? I believe everything happens for a reason and I know one day I will understand this journey but right now I'm soooooo confused; so I guess this is when I must step out on faith and the rest will be history. Am I alone on the way I feel? Or am I the only one willing to admit it? I just needed to get this off my chest- tomorrow will be a better day I promise that to you and myself.
Ciao!
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
My Dreams Are Not For Purchase!
Bonjour!
At first my mind was completely consumed with several topics to address this week: Faith, Motivation, Finances, Facebook, Discipline.
BUT!! After the day I had yesterday and the conversation I just had with a friend I have it now!! The question for myself and other QuarterLife phenoms is: Are we sold dreams because of our age and the idea of being naive? And when I say sold a dream I don't just mean in the workplace...I mean EVERYWHERE. Sold a dream in our relationships, family matters, education, etc. Think about it you have an idea of a "happy ending" whether it be based on being wealthy, having a spouse or being overly educated. This dream was developed during childhood as you watched the people around you or people on TV or from reading. No one ever explained how much reality dictates this dream and how much work is required in addition to the fact that it's not an easy road and there are a ton of things to watch for and be prepared for like "being sold". We're sold a dream with companionship with the idea that a guy has to have things on this list..career, house, money, love God, loves his momma....etc and a girl should look like Beyonce, cook like Patti, and be a freak like Jenna Jameson...etc but the thing is it's not real!! Each dream has to be customized and when I say customized I mean to reality! Even with your job, employers must hire people or the work will never get done so they sell us a dream! More so to us QuarterLife phenoms because they know we're hungry they know that we have yet to realize that the things they are promising and visioning for us is just that a "dream" not reality- UNLESS we make it reality ourselves.
Now this post is not to shit on anyone's dreams, this post is to motivate you to look beyond your dreams and find the truth =the real reality. The real reality is what you want, what you can create and the knowledge to dictate your dream and lead it. The problem I think we have is we make our dream and let other people dictate it. If you're dream is career-oriented make sure you're doing the right things to get there and if the job you have now sold you a dream that's not coming to terms or looks like it's going to have you left field step out on faith and get the job that will but take more time to find the right fit not just a fit. If you weren't performing to your employer's standards they would get rid of you so why not do vice versa for yourself and the sake of your career. If your relationship started off as a dream and he/she were saying all the right things and you weren't paying attention to their actual actions and subliminal messages but are now if it's not what you want for your life move on- with all the people in the world your bound to find one! Finances- you want wealth but your income won't suffice you to get there re-evaluate what you're doing and how you're doing it I'm sure there's some room for saving and there are plenty of places looking for part-time work. The point is it's your dream and you're the only one who can make it with with the grace of God.
The thing is I think because we are young and somewhat naive we are sometimes scared to do any of the things listed above because of the fear of starting over and the thought that everyone we meet has our best interest at heart and will guide us, know this is NOT true! There are definitely some great mentors in the world don't get me wrong but they are far and few in between, so you,we have to grab the horns and make sure we're doing our research and we're asking the right questions before we take leaps, we must be prepared.
With the whole fear thing i get it it's like: OMG I have to find a new job and hope the people like me, the money is good, I have to prove myself all over again, I have to go on dates, meet someone new! Get over it....You start over everyday of your life that you wake up, great things come from starting over you just have to be willing to go for the ride OR you keep doing the same thing you're doing now and getting the same thing you have before. There is a lesson in every trial and tribulation we go through in life the key is to make note of that lesson carry with you to ensure you're equipped for what's next but you'll never find out if you don't dictate you're dreams into real reality. OK- I'm off the soap box! (Sorry it's a long one)
Ciao!
At first my mind was completely consumed with several topics to address this week: Faith, Motivation, Finances, Facebook, Discipline.
BUT!! After the day I had yesterday and the conversation I just had with a friend I have it now!! The question for myself and other QuarterLife phenoms is: Are we sold dreams because of our age and the idea of being naive? And when I say sold a dream I don't just mean in the workplace...I mean EVERYWHERE. Sold a dream in our relationships, family matters, education, etc. Think about it you have an idea of a "happy ending" whether it be based on being wealthy, having a spouse or being overly educated. This dream was developed during childhood as you watched the people around you or people on TV or from reading. No one ever explained how much reality dictates this dream and how much work is required in addition to the fact that it's not an easy road and there are a ton of things to watch for and be prepared for like "being sold". We're sold a dream with companionship with the idea that a guy has to have things on this list..career, house, money, love God, loves his momma....etc and a girl should look like Beyonce, cook like Patti, and be a freak like Jenna Jameson...etc but the thing is it's not real!! Each dream has to be customized and when I say customized I mean to reality! Even with your job, employers must hire people or the work will never get done so they sell us a dream! More so to us QuarterLife phenoms because they know we're hungry they know that we have yet to realize that the things they are promising and visioning for us is just that a "dream" not reality- UNLESS we make it reality ourselves.
Now this post is not to shit on anyone's dreams, this post is to motivate you to look beyond your dreams and find the truth =the real reality. The real reality is what you want, what you can create and the knowledge to dictate your dream and lead it. The problem I think we have is we make our dream and let other people dictate it. If you're dream is career-oriented make sure you're doing the right things to get there and if the job you have now sold you a dream that's not coming to terms or looks like it's going to have you left field step out on faith and get the job that will but take more time to find the right fit not just a fit. If you weren't performing to your employer's standards they would get rid of you so why not do vice versa for yourself and the sake of your career. If your relationship started off as a dream and he/she were saying all the right things and you weren't paying attention to their actual actions and subliminal messages but are now if it's not what you want for your life move on- with all the people in the world your bound to find one! Finances- you want wealth but your income won't suffice you to get there re-evaluate what you're doing and how you're doing it I'm sure there's some room for saving and there are plenty of places looking for part-time work. The point is it's your dream and you're the only one who can make it with with the grace of God.
The thing is I think because we are young and somewhat naive we are sometimes scared to do any of the things listed above because of the fear of starting over and the thought that everyone we meet has our best interest at heart and will guide us, know this is NOT true! There are definitely some great mentors in the world don't get me wrong but they are far and few in between, so you,we have to grab the horns and make sure we're doing our research and we're asking the right questions before we take leaps, we must be prepared.
With the whole fear thing i get it it's like: OMG I have to find a new job and hope the people like me, the money is good, I have to prove myself all over again, I have to go on dates, meet someone new! Get over it....You start over everyday of your life that you wake up, great things come from starting over you just have to be willing to go for the ride OR you keep doing the same thing you're doing now and getting the same thing you have before. There is a lesson in every trial and tribulation we go through in life the key is to make note of that lesson carry with you to ensure you're equipped for what's next but you'll never find out if you don't dictate you're dreams into real reality. OK- I'm off the soap box! (Sorry it's a long one)
Ciao!
Friday, June 10, 2011
"Do you actually hate your job? " Seriously?
Bonjour!
A friend said yesterday she wanted to do a study on "why people stay in jobs they hate?". Which at the time I didn't think about too much but she's always coming up with crafty ideas so I said "go for it". It wasn't until last night while sipping on my Australian Chardonnay my mind starting wondering the same. It could've been the wine but anywho it made me think do people really hate their jobs or do they just need something to complain about? It could be fear or the idea that quitting would be irresponsible? Which would be the logical explanations but the thing is people who are afraid of flying often times make it a priority to face their fear and the idea of being irresponsible is a BS answer -every Friday night tons of people go to happy hour have 2/3 drinks and then drive home isn't that irresponsible? Isn't putting your car note off until next month to have $$ for vacay irresponsible? So why is staying somewhere being unhappy and possibly making other people lives miserable (because misery loves company) by being pissy at work. You have a choice everyday of your life so "why do people stay in jobs they hate" it's not because of fear itself it's because of doubt (not knowing what the hell you want to do), laziness (it's easier to come in and bitch and moan), and the lack of self confidence (because what would I do) and faith ( you don't realize how small a mustard seed really is). I'm not saying when you have a bad day quit but what I am saying is, if you go into work for 8 hours each day, day in day out waiting for 5p then there's a problem- we spend more time at work then we do with our families so why shouldn't it be somewhere you want to be. Or maybe the job isn't that bad but it's your attitude because you're not taking advantage of the opportunity to make it better.
In the world we live in today there is an opportunity for you to create and manifest any opportunity you want you just have to have the balls to do it and if you're not then shut up! This all comes with self evaluation: what do you want for yourself? how will get it?
I also think we stay because of people and relationships- but here's the thing if the people you work with are so great and your "job" isn't in the world of facebook, twitter, skype, bbm and everything else there's no reason they still can't be great after you leave. You must live for ( insert your name here ) Inc. And yes I know it's easier said than done but if you don't who will. I always tell people this is the advice I give but don't take but this time I think I may do a self-evaluation and ask myself "why do I stay" maybe if you're feeling the same way you should do the same.
Ciao!
A friend said yesterday she wanted to do a study on "why people stay in jobs they hate?". Which at the time I didn't think about too much but she's always coming up with crafty ideas so I said "go for it". It wasn't until last night while sipping on my Australian Chardonnay my mind starting wondering the same. It could've been the wine but anywho it made me think do people really hate their jobs or do they just need something to complain about? It could be fear or the idea that quitting would be irresponsible? Which would be the logical explanations but the thing is people who are afraid of flying often times make it a priority to face their fear and the idea of being irresponsible is a BS answer -every Friday night tons of people go to happy hour have 2/3 drinks and then drive home isn't that irresponsible? Isn't putting your car note off until next month to have $$ for vacay irresponsible? So why is staying somewhere being unhappy and possibly making other people lives miserable (because misery loves company) by being pissy at work. You have a choice everyday of your life so "why do people stay in jobs they hate" it's not because of fear itself it's because of doubt (not knowing what the hell you want to do), laziness (it's easier to come in and bitch and moan), and the lack of self confidence (because what would I do) and faith ( you don't realize how small a mustard seed really is). I'm not saying when you have a bad day quit but what I am saying is, if you go into work for 8 hours each day, day in day out waiting for 5p then there's a problem- we spend more time at work then we do with our families so why shouldn't it be somewhere you want to be. Or maybe the job isn't that bad but it's your attitude because you're not taking advantage of the opportunity to make it better.
In the world we live in today there is an opportunity for you to create and manifest any opportunity you want you just have to have the balls to do it and if you're not then shut up! This all comes with self evaluation: what do you want for yourself? how will get it?
I also think we stay because of people and relationships- but here's the thing if the people you work with are so great and your "job" isn't in the world of facebook, twitter, skype, bbm and everything else there's no reason they still can't be great after you leave. You must live for ( insert your name here ) Inc. And yes I know it's easier said than done but if you don't who will. I always tell people this is the advice I give but don't take but this time I think I may do a self-evaluation and ask myself "why do I stay" maybe if you're feeling the same way you should do the same.
Ciao!
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Day 1: Opening Day!
Welcome to "My QuarterLife Mind" where I a twenty-something chick in a large metropolitan city help - I don't really know if "help" is the right word- let's try this again where I speak/type and express the thoughts of a twenty-something chick trying to make it in this world. I like to believe this blog will probably only be read by few but for me it will be my safe haven of all the things you or I think but we have been trained to find it subconsciously inappropriate to voice even to our closest friends or family members. It was also be an opportunity for me to recap the things I'm learning each day as I go through this phase of my life trying to figure out in blatant terms What the HELL am I'm doing with my life?!
The idea of this blog came from the conversations I had with fellow friends, co-workers, and random strangers who helped me realize we were all in the same place in our life which I have now labeled as the "QuarterLife Crisis". The idea of being between fake adulthood and true adulthood while trying to figure out what's next, how do we get there, and how do we handle all the BS that comes along the way. SO....sit back and enjoy the ride and if you feel compelled to join come along trust me there's enough room because once again I have NO IDEA what the heck I'm doing.
Ciao!
The idea of this blog came from the conversations I had with fellow friends, co-workers, and random strangers who helped me realize we were all in the same place in our life which I have now labeled as the "QuarterLife Crisis". The idea of being between fake adulthood and true adulthood while trying to figure out what's next, how do we get there, and how do we handle all the BS that comes along the way. SO....sit back and enjoy the ride and if you feel compelled to join come along trust me there's enough room because once again I have NO IDEA what the heck I'm doing.
Ciao!
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